Grieving the Loss of a Relationship:
10Feb
12Jan
When Healing Feels Quiet (and That’s Not a Problem)
January newsletter One of the most common things I hear in therapy is this: “Nothing dramatic is happening… so why do I feel uneasy?” We’re often taught to expect healing to feel relieving or uplifting. But for many people — especially after trauma, loss, or divorce — healing can feel surprisingly quiet. Even uncomfortable. Here’s why. When your nervous system has spent a long time in survival mode, intensity feels familiar. Chaos, hypervigilance, overthinking — those states become the baseline. So when life begins...
16Dec
Attachment Styles and Divorce Recovery: Why You Love (and Heal) theWay You Do
Attachment Styles and Divorce Recovery: Why You Love (and Heal) theWay You DoDivorce doesn’t just end a marriage—it often reactivates the deepest emotional patterns we learned long before that relationship began. Those patterns, known as attachment styles, shape how we connect, depend on others, and cope with loss. Understanding your attachment style can help you make sense of why certain parts of divorce feel so painful—and how to move toward genuine healing. What Are Attachment Styles? Attachment theory describes...
16Dec
THE SUBTLE PATTERNS THAT MAKE OR BREAK A RELATIONSHIP
Most couples don’t fall apart because of one big betrayal or one dramatic argument. They fall apart slowly—through tiny, repeated moments where each partner doesn’t feel seen, supported, or understood. And the couples who thrive? They thrive for the exact same reason: the small things, done consistently. As a psychologist, I watch this unfold in my office every week. The difference between “we’re stuck” and “we’re rebuilding” often comes down to simple patterns that sound almost too small to...
02Oct
The Top 10 Reasons Why People Cheat in Relationships
Cheating is one of the most painful experiences a couple can go through. It often leaves the betrayed partner asking, “Why?” While every situation is unique, research and clinical practice point to common themes that help us understand why people cross that line. Below are 10 of the most common reasons why people cheat—and what they reveal about relationships. Unmet Emotional NeedsWhen someone feels emotionally disconnected—lonely, unseen, or unsupported—they may seek validation and intimacy outside of the relationship. This doesn’t excuse...
29Sep
Me and you and…someone else?
September update from the Blog:Me and you and…someone else?Me and you and…someone else?Is consensual monogamy becoming a forgotten way of life? Some might say that consensual non-monogamy is the new culture. As many as two-thirds of same sex male couples have agreements in some way about permitting sex with outside partners, and many heterosexual couples are beginning to explore sexual relationships of a non-monogamous nature as well.However, it's not just all fun and games without rules....
01Aug
The Telltale Signs of a Liar: How to Spot Deception in Everyday Life (Part 2)
Have you ever had a gut feeling that someone wasn't being truthful but couldn't quite explain why? Spotting a liar isn't always straightforward. Many signs of deception can look like anxiety, stress, or even social awkwardness. However, trained observers and psychologists have found that liars often display certain verbal, nonverbal, and behavioral cues, especially when trying to cover up something important. In this second post in this series, we will explore more of the most common signs of lying and how...
08Jul
The Telltale Signs of a Liar: How to Spot Deception in Everyday Life (Part 1)
Have you ever had a gut feeling that someone wasn't being truthful, but couldn't quite explain why? Spotting a liar isn't always straightforward. Many signs of deception can look like anxiety, stress, or even just social awkwardness. However, trained observers and psychologists have found that liars often display certain verbal, nonverbal, and behavioral cues-especially when trying to cover up something important. In this post, we'll explore the most common signs of lying and how to spot them in real-life conversations.
13May
Boundaries
Boundaries are the limits you set for yourself and sometimes communicate to others. Boundaries should help us feel safe and emotionally secure in healthy relationships. The best way to set boundaries is to be clear, consistent, and respectful. Here’s a practical approach: Know Your Limits: Reflect on what feels right or wrong for you—emotionally, physically, mentally, or time-wise. Communicate Clearly: Use direct, respectful language. For example, “I’m not comfortable discussing that,” or “I need some alone time after work.” Be Consistent: Reinforce your boundaries...
26Apr
The Most Common Mistakes Women Make During the Early Stages of Divorce Part 3: Did Someone Say “Rebound”?
Divorce is emotional, taxing, and overwhelming, and believe me, anyone who has ever gone through a divorce gets it. Sadly, sometimes the choices we make in the beginning of our divorce journey, aren’t in our best interest, and can lead to a greater loss than just the marriage itself. We may react rather than act, or possibly even just “check right out” without handling our situation mindfully or thoughtfully. This is the last post in this series that covers the...