The Most Common Mistakes Women Make During the Early Stages of Divorce Part 3: Did Someone Say “Rebound”?

Divorce is emotional, taxing, and overwhelming, and believe me, anyone who has ever gone through a divorce gets it. Sadly, sometimes the choices we make in the beginning of our divorce journey, aren’t in our best interest, and can lead to a greater loss than just the marriage itself. We may react rather than act, or possibly even just “check right out” without handling our situation mindfully or thoughtfully.

This is the last post in this series that covers the most common mistakes many women make during their divorce. See if you might notice a pattern.

Part 3: Did Someone Say “Rebound”?

Let’s face it, none of us want to feel lonely. Being that humans are social animals, although we can be alone, and often should be, loneliness can often feel intolerable. Perhaps you were in a loveless marriage for far too long, and all you want is to feel wanted and appreciated again. Perfectly understandable. But jumping too quickly into a new relationship without allowing yourself to heal and rediscover “you” set’s up both you and a potential partner for disappointment and unnecessary pain. The vacancy left by an ex-spouse cannot be filled with any occupant. Without the time to heal and rediscover your needs and wants, how will truly know whether he or she is the right fit? There will be time, and you owe it to yourself to take a minute to just be “you” first. Be the strong, insightful, attractive, and best you that you can be.

As you might notice, the common theme in this series of posts is that these decisions are all usually made on an emotional level. Whether it be pressure from an ex-partner, family, or friends, we all feel it. And that pressure can take it’s emotional toll out on us. But remember that knowledge is power, and taking the time to focus on “what you want, deserve, and are entitled to” is one of the strongest decisions you can make on your divorce journey. Focusing on yourself, prioritizing self-care, and taking time for “you” rather than rushing into your next relationship, are all decisions that increase your value. Remind yourself that your divorce is the first step in your new life, a better life, and the life you deserve.